So unpredictable, So sensitive / By Javy Allen

"I left my boyfriend because he can not handle his emotions" These were the words of a friend who, by respect, I wont mention her name, but phrases like this one are heard constantly in this interesting world known as SecondLife.


It turns out that 3D social networks have become a bridge between people who are at a distance, and at least this can give the perfect feeling to interact when it is not possible in RL for myriad reasons.

But then, why are virtual relationships so unstable and relatively short term duration if we are assuming that you are in an ideal world of perfection? Well there are many variables when defining this virtual instability in managing emotions.

Many of the "virtual romances" are affected by reasons such as one of the involved persons takes SL as nothing but a game, or also as an escape from everyday life that represents the real world. If we consider that players are adults, we find that the tendency is that the SL player has a partner in real life. This doesn’t take away those who are single and use SL to find a partner in RL

Obviously, another reason why a virtual relationship tends to be very short is the time, and that this factor is mostly invested by those who are in a "virtual romance" to perform their daily activities RL. Leaving the other person involved in waiting for the lover to come online ... but, when this virtual lover is not constant in their entries to this virtual space, problems arise.

When this “inconstant lover” comes online, the first reception he receives is a complaint, by his "beloved" who has been long hours waiting for him to come online ... (Big Mistake). So, we already have a new obligation, adding to the agenda the daily task of getting online SL. And this means SL is no longer a distraction, but an obligation, and now we must not only meet our obligations in RL but also our obligations in SL.

When did this happen? ...

Moreover, the tired of waiting lover begins to feel pleased by that other avatar friend who listens to their troubles.

Typical users of SL use 20-30 hours per week of their time to interact. The most frequent use all their available time. 20% of regular users say that this world is the place for "real" residence, the Earth is just the place to eat and sleep. (Edward Castronova: Synthetic Worlds).
From then there are several types of users. If we put together the frequent users with the typical range users, we could conclude that it is indeed a short-term relationship. As the interest is not shared, and obviously both have different visions of what the media may pose to the other.

Then: What is what should be done to make the relationship lasts? I believe that both should be very honest about what is exactly what they are looking for with this relationship. Fun, a partner for RL, removing stress of RL, explore virtual worlds, business, virtual sex, in order, be honest and accept the rules of each ones game. If you still decide you want that person to be your partner, then u should addapt, reaching a balance.

"If it comes to identifying the reason why a person falls in love virtually when in fact has a couple in real life, we find that it is acting because of a lack of affection and emotional. In this various experts agree, including psychologist Catherine Bosch, who has explained that this situation is "a perfect niche for another person to come and make them feel satisfied from the point of view of their self-esteem, their illusions and their expectations." That is, one person begins to fill gaps, creating a closer relationship than we have with our own partner. In this sense, experts agree that people can fall in love online, as this would be nothing but our imagination runs wild, when filled with illusions